In Other Words Tuesdays ~WRITE WITH US Mom failure versus God's Touch~~

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“Like any mom, at times I’ve felt like a failure.
And other times I’ve felt as if God reached down and added an extra touch of sunshine to the day.”

By author Tricia Goyer

 

This quote is so true as an wife ,mother of two ; my daughter age 11 and son age 9 and in my walk with the Lord.
Often i remember when they where toddlers and even now i feel overwhelmed or i question myself if i am consequent enough when i am disciplining them....f.e.
I am not an perfect mother i fail terrible.....just how i am "an work in progress" my kids also are...... They must become an man and woman in this world and want to follow the instructions of God by following His SON JESUS Christ......

“You, therefore, must be perfect [growing into complete maturity of godliness in mind and character, having reached the proper height of virtue and integrity], as your heavenly Father is perfect.”

 
We all must partner "form an team "with our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ......
In my raising up my kids as an parent i try to realize especially in the moment i feel like these two pictures.........1 Balncing Life
2 Feeling overloaded........; down,depressed,irritable...seems like nothing is working....
THAT GOD IS THERE HE wants to partner with me with us!
That are the moments of sunshine in an day....
* When we share love with eachoter...( Love your brothers as youreself)
*When i hear my daughter singing praise songs in the morning under the shower before going to school
*When we talk things over realizing we all are sinners and can ask for forgiveness
* In the mids of life and the hustle and bustle  to know that He takes care of eachone of us....We can give eachother to The lord in prayer.....


I want to share an story with you about

God is always around us

She was feeling down & depressed as nothing seemed to be working the way she had thought they would. The smallest things used to upset her. Nobody seemed to care for her because everyone was too busy with their own lives.
She cried out in desperation, "Why is this happening to me? God, please help me, speak with me"..........And a
cuckoo sang, but the woman did not seem to hear.

She cried out in desperation, "Why is this happening to me? God, please help me, speak with me"..........And a cuckoo sang, but the woman did not seem to hear

 Again she yelled "God, speak to me" .... All of a sudden, there was thunder & lightning across the sky.

The woman still did not pay attention. She looked around and said, "God, why am I unable to see you? please let me see you."
And then, a star shined brightly. Yet the woman did not see.

Now the woman shouted, "God, show me some miracle".... At this point, in her neighbour's house, a life was born. This woman was so deep in his miseries that she did not notice the cry of a newborn.

 So, the woman cried out in despair, "Touch me, God, and let me know you are here".... God reached down and touched the woman. But the woman brushed away the butterfly and walked on...........

Marriage Monday ~ Blessing our Parents............~

At Chrysalis is asked
Show of hands please…
How many of you were raised in Christian homes? Let’s define that. Both of your parents were believers, you were active in church and ministry, and a biblical worldview was upheld and promoted.

OK, how many of you were raised in a home where only one of your parents was a believer, they took you to church, and tried to raise you according to biblical standards.

Now, a show of hands from those of you who were raised in a secular home. You came to Christ through a ministry such as a youth group or a Christian friend. As an adult you’re considered an oddball in your extended family; Thanksgiving and Christmas are usually uncomfortable affairs.

Most of us fall into one of these three categories—or some variation. We were either strongly influenced toward faith in our family, somewhat influenced, or not at all.

The joys or difficulties of upholding the values of a Christian marriage go back to our childhood. Unless they've had a conversion experience (or fell away) later in life, the kind of support we experience from our parents today, is no different than it was in our formative years. Along with a host of other in-law issues, the expression of faith in our marriage can create ongoing conflicts.
Q & A

Q. How should we respond to our parents’ well-meaning attempts to offer marriage and parenting advice that's not based on a Christian worldview?

A. The short answer is based on simple good manners—and comes straight from Scripture. We must honor our mother and father (Eph 6:2-3). Thank them for their kindness and concern. However, we can choose to respect the person, and not the message. We can use our spiritual discernment to determine how much of our parents' advice really lines up with God’s Word. One good ol' southerner (USA) summed it up this way: “Takin’ the advice of our elders is a lot like eatin’ fried chicken. Chew up the meat, but spit out the bones!”
Q. What’s the long answer?




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• Long-Distance Grand-parenting: What Works for Us
• The Wisdom of Our Elders is Welcome (in Small Doses)
• Tips for Caring for Aging Parents
• In-Laws & Outlaws: My Story of Forgiveness

Last week i encountered already the topic of this Marriage  Monday....
July’s topic, “Blessing Our Parents” taps into the joys of extended family. How are we incorporating the older generation into our married lives in healthy ways? And what are the issues we're struggling with?
 And was thinking "shall i shall i not"? "How must i put my thoughts down be honest and still respecting my parents and in-law privacy"?

I see myself and my husband struggling in our married lives with each of our in and out laws......
But on the other hand i see Gods Power of
* Healing
* Restoration 
* Salvation
In our relationships and in our marriage and indivudual relationship with our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ


In fact we are in the middle of the proces
For myself i can say i came an long way in the healing process the moment i start forgiving my parents for childhood issues and others going into adulthood and around our marriage!
It brought me this year to be able to make an "Fathersday blogpost" where i felt since long i can let go of some feelings

For our marriage life we have circumstances what gave strain but also "road-block" to build-up easily healthy ways for relationship with our in-laws

We live on 3 continents
My parents live in South-America
My in-laws in Africa
And we life in Europe
There are beside spiritual issues, also language and different customs and cultural influences......
You can imagine HUGE BARRIERS of comunication issues...explaining our motives, try to place ourselves in the shoes of the other ........and FORGIVENESS and ACCEPTING eachother for who he or she is and learn to RESPECT and HONOUR eachother with our words and actions.....

Looking back ...I can see that we where so in love with eachother and where SURPRISED that those "roadblocks" need to be taken by us and would affected our marriage if we are not aware of it.....
BUT GOD HE KEPT US and learns us how to respect and honour our parents and the same time  works on each of us spiritual growth.....He learned me to PRAY and witness answered prayers a long those years and that gave me confidence to keep on TRUSTING and hoping the best for our relationships....

Recently my mother in-law passed away and i am so thankful we could bring her honour as an family to attend her funeral....
The memories we made with her when she was a live can't be taken away from us....
She welcomed me in her family as an daughter the 1st time ( and only time) i visit my in-laws in Nigeria. She appreciated us that we where able to let her come two times for vacation to Amsterdam....She came to know our living-circumstances and our life....She met her grandchildren,was witness of there baptism.....God prepared it that the same time my MIL came over  my mother had to travel for an "socialorganization" to Europe......
We combined that both grand-mothers could meet and be on the baptism of both there grandkids....
Awesome memories who i know in my heart where God ordained and answers to prayers.......